Relationships are tough, whether you're married or dating. You're going to argue and you'll say things you will later regret. You'll give each other the silent treatment and some nights you'll even go to bed mad. Your partner will no doubt make you mad enough to want to pull your hair out. There will be disagreements and times you'll give into something you don't want to do or agree with. There might even be times you want to walk out the door and never look back.
Welcome to sharing your life with someone else!! You go through all of the above (and then some) with your significant other and the big question is....WHY?! I'll tell you why. You love them. You adore them. You cherish the good times spent and there's just something about them that makes your heart smile. That is why you put up with them and that is why they put up with you!
Repeat after me..."I can't expect them to be perfect because neither am I. I have faults and I too can be a huge pain in the ass!"
It is no secret that my husband has a ton of faults. A TON!! I'm not perfect and who am I to constantly complain about him not being perfect either? If he's wrong, I tell him and he does the same for me, if we're feeling nice we do it with love. ;) When I'm in a bad mood he's quick to figure out why, as I am with him. We disagree at times and we try to find a way to compromise and not belittle each other in the process. Sometimes it's easier to just agree to disagree. When we have a problem we work through it together, even if it means we take a breather first.
Too many times I hear that couples are unhappy but yet they haven't told each other exactly why. If you can't be 100% open with your partner there is something wrong. It's easy to talk about how great things are going in our relationships but we have a hard time pointing out the bad. I sometimes think it's because we are so worried we may upset each other. The last thing we want is to make them feel judged, mad, sad or embarrassed, so we hold back. Instead of saying, "I'm not happy and here's why"..."you do this and I don't like it", we keep it to ourselves and let it build up until the day it ALL comes out at once.
That's the day we spit out regrets, point out faults and ultimately hurt the one we really do care about. The one that puts up with our imperfections. Unfortunately, we forget that part. It takes a lot of work and patience to make a relationship a succcess.
It's easy to walk away when things get tough but if you work through it together the reward is amazing!
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