My Rants For The Day

Ok, I may make some mad but let me begin by saying this...

If anything I say stings in some way then that isn't my fault, it's your own guilt talking to you. I need to get some stuff off my chest and while it isn't everything, these are a few at the top of my list. Now let me begin my rant. :)

Women, if you present yourself in a certain way you are going to attract what you put out there. Show some class and respect for yourself or stop complaining about how men disrespect you and use you. 

Men, if you have a rare gem at home don't go looking for some dirty little stone that others can easily pick up. In other words...don't fall for the nastiness walking around out there. Protect your gem before it gets taken by someone who knows the true value of it. A truly beautiful woman isn't going to just let any man near her jewels. 

Never, ever complain about your spouse to the opposite sex...they will use that as ammo and strike!! You are handing them your weaknesses and allowing them to use it to their advantage. 

When someone flirts with you and you feel the urge to flirt back, pick up the phone and say those sweet things to your husband or wife instead. When was the last time you called your wife beautiful or your husband handsome? If you can't remember, then right now is the perfect time to do so. 

If your relationship is a secret they are ashamed of you. You are NOT the exception to the rule, no matter how much they try to convince you otherwise. 

When you start deleting texts or hiding secrets from your spouse you are already in too deep. If you're telling yourself "it's just a friend" why not let your spouse keep your phone for a day. Bet you change your tune then. 

If you say you're sorry, MEAN IT!! SHOW IT!! Otherwise, remove that word from your vocabulary because you don't know what it means to be truly sorry. 

Before you cheat think about everyone your actions will impact...especially your children! Is it worth it?!  

You are not the victim if you have an affair with a married man or woman. The betrayed spouse is the victim, not you!! 

If you have had an affair you better be doing everything in your power to show your spouse you are remorseful. If they want to reconcile with you, be glad they are willing to work it out with you after all the pain you have caused them. Be sympathetic and patient to their feelings, you are the one that put them in that state. 

Do not blame the "other man/woman" for your actions. You chose to flirt with disaster and step outside of your marriage. Take responsibility for what YOU did. 

Why is it that we always want more than what we have? I say "we" because lets face it...at some point we want more, whether it be money, love, affection, attention or approval. When we aren't getting what we want we look for it in all the wrong places. 


Lastly....

What goes through a person's head when they try and destroy the lives of others??? Are they that unhappy with their own lives that they feel justified in wrecking someone else's? I know what it is...they are cold-hearted, mean and just plain selfish! In no way are they a "good" person. If they were they wouldn't be so nasty! Normal people do not go around destroying the lives of others. 


What goes around comes around. I am a firm believer in karma...good and bad. People get what they dish out, eventually everything comes full circle and some of us will be beyond blessed while others will live a life of regrets and sorrow that they have caused.  

Ahhh....I feel better now. :)

Talk It Out

Relationships are tough, whether you're married or dating. You're going to argue and you'll say things you will later regret. You'll give each other the silent treatment and some nights you'll even go to bed mad. Your partner will no doubt make you mad enough to want to pull your hair out. There will be disagreements and times you'll give into something you don't want to do or agree with. There might even be times you want to walk out the door and never look back.

Welcome to sharing your life with someone else!! You go through all of the above (and then some) with your significant other and the big question is....WHY?! I'll tell you why. You love them. You adore them. You cherish the good times spent and there's just something about them that makes your heart smile. That is why you put up with them and that is why they put up with you!

Repeat after me..."I can't expect them to be perfect because neither am I. I have faults and I too can be a huge pain in the ass!"

It is no secret that my husband has a ton of faults. A TON!! I'm not perfect and who am I to constantly complain about him not being perfect either? If he's wrong, I tell him and he does the same for me, if we're feeling nice we do it with love. ;) When I'm in a bad mood he's quick to figure out why, as I am with him. We disagree at times and we try to find a way to compromise and not belittle each other in the process. Sometimes it's easier to just agree to disagree. When we have a problem we work through it together, even if it means we take a breather first.

Too many times I hear that couples are unhappy but yet they haven't told each other exactly why. If you can't be 100% open with your partner there is something wrong. It's easy to talk about how great things are going in our relationships but we have a hard time pointing out the bad. I sometimes think it's because we are so worried we may upset each other. The last thing we want is to make them feel judged, mad, sad or embarrassed, so we hold back. Instead of saying, "I'm not happy and here's why"..."you do this and I don't like it", we keep it to ourselves and let it build up until the day it ALL comes out at once.

That's the day we spit out regrets, point out faults and ultimately hurt the one we really do care about. The one that puts up with our imperfections. Unfortunately, we forget that part. It takes a lot of work and patience to make a relationship a succcess.

It's easy to walk away when things get tough but if you work through it together the reward is amazing! 

Men...Gotta Love Em'

I'm not one to bash men BUT I wanted to share some thoughts I have on them, my husband in particular. Enjoy! Oh and if I offend anyone I'm sorry, but if the shoe fits.....

• Men are such babies when they are sick...OMG are they babies! However, if we are sick we should still get up and move around because "it's good for us."
• Getting them to fully complete a project requires patience (on our part).They tend to start something and not finish. 
• Having a conversation while the television is on will end in "huh, did you say something?"
• If you can't get them to do something just start doing it yourself...they'll take over. Works every time! 
• If you're doing something while they're around, 9 times out of 10 you will hear what you are doing wrong. 
• When the kids ask for anything they will be told "go ask Mommy."
• If you ask "does this look good?" be prepared for an answer you aren't going to be happy with. Sometimes the truth isn't best.
• They will never be too busy to help out a buddy, but suddenly too tired when it's you that needs help.
• If the kids are hungry they will more than likely not know what to feed them. 
• Repeating yourself will get tiring but if you raise your tone while doing so it will result in an argument. 
• Do not...and I repeat DO NOT ever tell them to "grow up" because they will get so mad. Like toddler temper tantrum mad!! 
• When you travel be sure to save the GPS coordinates in your phone for back up.  
• To save time decide where you want to eat BEFORE you get in the car. Otherwise there will be a game of "I don't know, what do you want?" and you'll just end up eating McDonald's. 
• Never ask him if you need to lose weight. His mouth will say "you're fine just the way you are", but his face will say "wouldn't hurt!!" Watch the eyebrows...they don't lie! 
• When you go shopping he will be the one that ends up with the new wardrobe. (This could just by my husband though...hence the blog name) 
• If he's having a bad day at work it's probably best not to ask who put him in that mood. 
• Telling him you don't want him to do something, buy something or go someplace will result in him doing it, spending more than he would have in the first place and being gone longer just because he was told not to. 
• Never mention boys and his daughter in the same sentence...they don't like the thought of that at all!! Unless your daughter is older...we have a 7 year old and he already dreads it.
• They can dish it but they can't take it. 
• Threatening to tell his mother will mean absolutely nothing! 
• Whatever idea you have will not work according to him but I'll be darned if he doesn't have the same idea later on and still take all the credit. 
• If you really want him to listen to your advice you'll have better luck getting a stranger to deliver the message. 
• When they think they're right just nod your head, roll your eyes and save your breath. No matter how wrong they really are. ;)

Men are great, aren't they? We love them even with all of their faults, just as much as they love us with all of ours. 

Feel free to add any I may have missed in the comments below. =)